According to George Carlin, Thomas Raynesford Lounsbury said: “It never ceases to surprise me at the infinite capacity of the human mind to resist the introduction of useful knowlege.” My idea is that people do have an extrememly low retention rate for new and useful information.
Here are some examples of groups trying to get around this obstacle:
- The University of Connecticut are changing their approach to teaching students: http://advance.uconn.edu/1997/970912/09129710.htm
- The “Head First” computer books by the O’reilly publishers use images, puzzles, conversational language and emotion to get the reader to have a greater connection with the material in order to increase retention.
- Anthony Robbins gets his audience to move and to act on his advice during the presentation in order to make the activities practiced instead of just heard. He claims the sitting/bored state does not enable retention.
- A mathematition that spoke for TED uses real-life examples instead of just thoery to get his students thinking and discussing instead of following instructions.
- Another TED speaker compared the classroom environment to the industrial age where people were told what to do and were not expected to think.
- Active learning has been around since the time of Socrates: http://www.vcu.edu/cte/resources/tlc/2_2_active_learning.htm
If you’re alive, you’re still learning and it’s important for you to use techniques to increase your retention and habits of putting the information to use. Using techniques like these and others, a Life Coach can speed up your ability to move from information to retention to use to habit getting you measureable results.
|We are what we consistently do;
|excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.
I have a poster that reminds me when to give up on the things I want to achieve and when to quit when it seems hopeless. It’s a poster of John Elway from the Denver Broncos that says “It’s Never Over”. Elway was not perfect and he did lose games like everyone else, but when things looked bleak he was able to keep his composure to have 34 comeback wins in the 4th quarter and overtime. I want to model him and keep going when I feel like I can’t or it seems like there is an insurmountable obstacle.
I’d like to invite you to choose a hero or a mentor that has overcome and achieved when no one thought they could. Put that person’s image or accomplishment where you will see it enough to drive you forward toward your goals.
Another reason people who need a life coach might be resistant is the idea of control. A person might believe that they would be told what to do or have to follow the coach’s suggestions and thus would lose some control over their life. Nothing could be further from the truth. A coach suggests and enables, but never forces or drives the client in a particular direction. When I’m helping someone, they’ve got ownership of both the responsibility for their actions and the decisions for what they should do. I’ve got to give you the tools and the ideas and to work with you for what you can discover by talking through your problems, but your life is always your own.
The facebook site Your Potential Power today mentioned a great quote from Ram Dass from his book How Can I Help: “We are all just walking each other home.”
It’s so easy to get caught up in life and forget the path we are on. None of us knows for sure what this life is about and why we are here, but we do know what is going to happen to us eventually in this life. We must remember each day that our lives are short and precious. We’ve got to make the most of each moment and help each other along the way.
The other quote that I like that has to do with a short life comes from Henry V (Act 4, Scene 5). There is a moment when the leaders of the French can see that the battle is most certainly lost. It’s moving to me because he realizes that he is fully responsible and knows what he must do. He might as well get in there and fight as he has lost everything. I remember it as motivation if my life ever becomes so irretrievably destroyed. The Duke of Bourbon: “The devil take order now! I’ll to the throng: Let life be short; else shame will be too long.”
When we’ve been consistent and we’ve been pushing and exceeding our limits, there comes a time for rest and renewal. If we can recognize this time, we can make the most of it and come back to our tasks refreshed and ready for more. If we keep pushing and ignore the opportunity, we can burn out and be in a bad position when work becomes necessary.
Try to notice when your opportunities come up and take advantage of them. Our lives have enough struggle without adding to it with unnecessary concerns.
Most of the time when we ask a child what their future holds, we ask them “What are you going to be when you grow up?” We assume that they have no idea who they are and that everything will change for them. When we ask an adult what their future holds we ask “What do you do?” assuming that their lives are set in stone and that they can not change. The reality is that most people have several careers during their lifetime and learn and grow during the process. Also, people are defined by much more than just what they do to earn money.
Look at your life and how far you’ve come from who you were at different times in your life. Are you ready for more change?
Just occasionally, try an experiment and try to listen to someone who is talking to you and really understand them. Not just the meaning of the words, but why they have come to say what they are saying. Try to avoid immediately following the instinct of providing a solution or problem with their assertions. You may find that instead of judging or contradicting them that you’ll see the situation in a new light – the way that they do. Every person has something valuable in the way they look at things and if we immediately discard their ideas because they differ with ours we may miss the opportunity to understand the greater reasons behind what they say.
Persistance means to keep your plan going even if you don’t want to, you’re too tired, or you feel like too much has happened to you to keep going. Persistance means a dedication to your plan that you will keep no matter what. Don’t let life stop you. Dig deep for whatever will keep pushing you to the next step, the next level and the next new life that was better than the last. If you’re alive there is a reason to try. If you fail get up again and again trying new approaches until you succeed. You can do it!
1. mental power, force, or vigor.
2. moral power, firmness, or courage.
3. something or someone that gives one strength or is a source of power or encouragement; sustenance
To be able to realize your goals and dreams you first must be able to cultivate your strength. Patterns of inspiring thoughts and feelings can push you through tough times. Also, memories of people who were able to keep going when all seemed lost. You can even think of those who failed miserably knowing that you don’t want to end up the same way.
What do you think of when you feel like the world is against you and you’ve had enough? Where do you go for strength?
Here’s a inspirational video that my friend LisaBraithwaite posted on her blog. I was impressed with the humility of showing the process she went through. It made me cry with happiness because it shows the potential we have to become greater than we are. When my son saw the beginning when it says “practice makes…” he said “Excellence”. I’m a very proud dad.
“Love the Process” – SaFire’s Hooping Manifesto (Song: Taio Cruz – I Can Be)