As I have lost my job of 14 years due to a lack of available work for me and as my cousin completes the destruction of his life, I spend Good Friday feeling a sadness for my personal loss. We must appreciate every moment we have because the past we knew will continue to fall away as it has for me today. At the same time, I am more hopeful and committed to my future as I ever have been. I’m looking forward to what next week, next month, next year and the rest of my life holds for all of us.
I believe the number one reason a person considering a life coach wouldn’t hire one is because of a fear of personal change. Ironically, a person that wants to make their life change does not want to change themselves. This is exactly opposite to the way life actually works. A large number of philosophers and succesful people attribute their success to their ability to change themselves usually with the help of a third party. A person imagining a bad outcome to this behavior thinks that they will become an unrecognizable person that they wouldn’t like to be. In fact, the difference that people experience through almost any change is a better, stronger person and people change through the process of a normal life on almost a daily basis. Having a hand in your own changes and pointing yourself in a direction you desire will give you the best chance to reach your goals and become the person you would like to be.
Being aware of this concern, I will not push my ideas for change on you. I will suggest ways of thinking about issues that may cause you to come up with your own ideas, but you are always in charge.
Each of the posts in this series have a common theme. They are bad reasons not to hire a life coach and the root cause of the decision is driven by fear. Everyone does not need a life coach, but if you do please do not allow fear to drive your decision.
I have repeatedly asked the question “How great can we be?”. When we start our journey of reaching higher goals or creating lasting change in our lives, we start with a vision of where we could go and what we could become. How high can we aim for? What is the limit of human potential? Many would say unlimited, but that is avoiding the question to an extent. Some would say we can never reach perfection and that Jesus meant just to try to be great and to improve when he said “Be perfect, as I am perfect”, but what if we truly could? What if we had the ability not only to discern what we should be to be perfect, but had the ability to get there as well? Shouldn’t we try? Wouldn’t it be worth it to put all our facilities and resources toward this lofty goal especially if on the way we became better and more enabling to those around us?
Some may think that a life coach would be providing answers to problems that are brought to them. That they would have nigh unlimited perception and understanding of the world and the way we should behave in it to achieve our goals. If this were true, I’m sure a mere 30 minute talk (provided for free in most cases) would be enough for the problem to evaporate. If this scenario is what you expect I think you might be disappointed.
I believe that a coach starts with you on a journey of listening, appreciating, understanding and learning the unique situations and personalities and facts surrounding your issues. Then they can provide ideas to continue the thought process with you to determine actions large and small that will facilitate approaching your true fulfillment and proper destiny.